Relationship Readings with Human Design

Looking at the composite/relationship charts for my partner and I have broadened and deepened our understanding of ourselves and each other in relationship. I believe these tools can help any relationship - by increasing perspectives and understanding we can see how beautifully we come together with another person. 

These readings are based upon specific issues or tension spots in your relationship - some may not even be readily visible but may come to light when looking at the ways the energies come together. Often tension spots can become strengths and ways to balance the partnership when looked at through the right lens. 

For example, gates 5 and 15. Gate 5 tends to thrive on schedules, routines, consistency. Gate 15 tends to thrive when things aren't the same all the time, when there is flexibility and change and something new to be invigorated by. At times these two energies can feel at odds if each person wants the other to operate the way they do. When shown that each operates in their own way and how that can aid the other partner, it can be seen as a benefit to encompass a full spectrum of operating energies. 

Other connections like gates 42 and 53 feel more like they complete each other. Gate 53 loves to start projects, Gate 42 is great at finishing things. When seen through the lens of judgement the gate 42 may judge the gate 53 as always starting things and never finishing them, but when seen clearly, it is a way each partner can play to their strengths and increase connection and partnership, seeing each other differences as benefits. 

Other gate connections are simply really complimentary. 

These are one of my favorite ways to dive into a relationship chart. 

The way the centers interact and the way the types play together can also be very powerful. Often someone with a defined G/Identity center pairs up with someone with an undefined G/Identity center. The defined energy can be amplified by the person with the undefined center, bringing a great depth of direction in life, a feeling of lovability and sense of identity. 

While a general reading can be done, I find specific questions and issues shed light in a more usable way. 

They don't need to be big issues, it could also be a collection of small things that are just confusing and irritating. A place where there is friction, but a level of justification or acceptance that still holds some resentment. 

I had a friend that jokingly commented after learning about human design "you mean everyone else isn't just a dysfunctional version of me?"

Some of us need consistency and some of us need variety, some of us have a lot of inherent energy and gain energy by doing things we love. Some of us need more rest. Some need to move fast and skip steps. Some need to go slow and take time to integrate.

All energies have optimized version and shadow aspects. 

We all have all the energy, just in very different recipes with different ratios and consistency to access. 

When thinking about what issues to share, some ways to think about them - 

Where are place that patterns seem to emerge? 

Does one partner consistently get irritated by something the other partner does and the other partner can't seem to "control" or "change". 

Are there conversations that are had, and maybe things change for a little while and then revert back to the way they were before.